How to handle tantrums? I always say you ignore tantrums, but you're right there, you're not on your phone or anything, you look like you're waiting for a bus. As soon as the tantrum stops, I would say oh, you're all done. You want to go read a book? If they know they're loved and you’re meeting their needs, tantrums tend to diminish in duration, frequency and intensity by being ignored. So you don't validate a tantrum if you are addressing all those feelings the rest of the time. Looking for ex