Have you noticed what negative language we use around intimacy! If 10 of us sat around a dinner table, eating the same food, we would still all season the food to our own tastes! Someone would add more salt, someone else might add chillies or pickles. One person might want it piping hot while the other will wait till it cools down a little… We are all happy to explore different tastes or needs when it comes to food; we understand the need to make that little extra effort to make it the best for