We are all in the process of defining ourselves. Every act is an act of self definition. If you are happy with how you have created yourself , if it serves who you choose to be then continue in that way. If you are not then you will stop. This is called evolution. The only thing that changes as we evolve is our idea of what serves us .. what we choose to be. The question of what we are trying to do / who we are trying to be then becomes a question of prime importance - not just in life in genera